By Samra Jones Bufkins He's been up since 2am and he's batshit crazy. Actually, he has been for the last several days. Yesterday he attacked the light fixture over the kitchen table. He angrily pointed at it and said "YOU HAVE TO GET THAT OUT OF HERE!" Later he did the same thing to the … Continue reading Caregiver’s Log, Thursday, April 26, 2018
By Samra Jones Bufkins Not long ago I wrote a post about "getting real." Since then it's gotten better, but not much. The other morning, right before his physical therapist arrived, he came out of the guest bathroom. I didn't see him leave, but he circled through my office and the kitchen, and when I saw … Continue reading More about getting real
January 30, 2018 TMI Alert: This one doesn't sugarcoat anything. For the third January in a row, we've been to the ER. This time, hubby was admitted for pneumonia on January 2. Ten days later he was moved to a skilled nursing rehab facility to work on regaining strength and balance. That was 2 weeks … Continue reading Time to get real about this
by Samra Jones Bufkins I’m going to start “Caregiver Logs” (inspired by Star Trek’s Captain’s Log) as part of this blog, describing incidents and behaviors we experience. For the first few posts I’ll be going back in recent time. I’ll venture into the TMI zone here, because people need to know that hostility, agitation and … Continue reading Caregiver’s Log, October 13, 2017
by Samra Jones Bufkins We’ve all seen the ad. Grandpa can't remember his granddaughter's name. Grandma decides it's time for him to take ______ drug. While I’m tempted to turn this into a rant about both the pharmaceutical industry and the Alzheimer’s Association over-simplifying dementia by implying it’s only about memory loss, I’d rather relate … Continue reading A Tale of Two Kettles
When the broken finger belongs to somebody with Alzheimer's Disease. by Samra Jones Bufkins It was a sunny morning and I was sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of tea and a cat sprawled in my lap, checking email and watching squirrels rob the bird feeder just outside the window. My husband Bill, … Continue reading When is a broken finger worse than brain surgery?
There’s a term for one of the feelings caregivers suffer while their loved one is still alive—Ambiguous Loss.* Caregivers for people with dementia suffer the painful paradox of living with a person who is physically present but sometimes psychologically absent. The rollercoaster ride of good days and bad days exacerbates the ambiguity of the loss.
Connections are important in life, and I was pleased to learn my friend and PRSA colleague Gregg Shields had gone to work at UTSW Medical School. Gregg called me to tell me he was excited to be assigned to the Neurology Clinic, and especially the Alzheimer's Center. I told him how great the doctors and … Continue reading Sharing the word about the Alzheimer’s Association
My last post about the Medic Alert bracelet apparently caught the attention of a reporter who worked with the Dallas chapter of the Alzheimer's Association on an article about wandering. It's a pretty good article, but I'm a little disappointed at one small omission. While talking to Bill the reporter asked him about his wandering adventure … Continue reading Coping with Loved Ones who may Wander
Edited 12/1/2013 According to the Alzheimer's Association, six of ten people with dementia will wander. We've all seen the lighted highway signs: "Missing Elderly" with a license number and description of the car. As I write this Hal Ticknor is still missing, last seen October 11 driving his Chevy out of his driveway, was found … Continue reading Peace of mind in a MedicAlert bracelet.